Motherhood
How do you mother a teenage child who doesn’t want to be mothered? Well the source his self has taught me….you don't.
Its an unfortunate solution when it comes to raising you own, because never in a mothers way would there not be an option.
Raising a seventeen year old boy while 8 months pregnant with his sister is tough. A teenager to raise alone is quite a massive challenge. With a baby on board its fuel to the fire. But Wait... heres another twist Im not my sons biological mom. Not even the step mom. I am his fathers girlfriend.
He became apart of my life at the age of twelve. I was just twenty five. Which in my mind might implicate a problem as to his views of me. What I had going for me at this point was his age. His characteristics should be very excepting, and wanting so desperately to be excepted in return. And I was right. He welcomed me with open arms I think because I seemed more like a sister because of our closeness in age. We bonded immediately which build the amazing relationship between him and I, his fathers significant other.
I became a very influential and important adult in his life. It was almost as if I was feeling a void for him. A parental void. I became the emotional support, the confidant, The one who pass no judgement an intern became the one to trust.
Next couple of years where leading up to his adolescence. Which I knew from my years as a teen thats when all hell breaks loose. As predicted sixteen was the year. Now around me it seemed as if everyone was at a breaking point with him. Like it was time for them to throw in the towel. Which I could totally sympathize with them being his parents. They actually raised this child from day one. Where as I only was exposed to six years of his life. I still had some fight in me.
So Ive dedicated the last six months with the attempt at raising a teenager. Pretty quickly you become familiar to their new traits. For example they know everything, they’re always right, they will argue every you or they say into the ground with total ineffectual information, never except that they are or could be wrong even if it has been proven for them in tangible site, they are invincible to everything, nothing is ever good enough anymore, their wants have now become their needs (as they see it), they've become masters at their life long craft Manipulating, and this is just the icing on the cake.
You begin to notice that they have become Doctors, legislatures, and even the new spokesperson of WebMD. Mine is Doctor Dre and no thats not the rapper although being a rapper is now in his repeater. He must have a seat in the senate or the house due to his over night knowledge he acquired about America and how we run it. My mother always was referred to as “The Walking Dictionary”. Well she was a scholar from Welsley College. I mean she met the credentials to own that title. My sister Wendie short lived but owned the title WenMD (WebMD). Some how she always seemed to know the answer. That is until my seizures came along. She was denounced of her title. Just because her title was striped didn’t mean a new princess should step up and claim the title…..sure enough my teenager did. Jokingly in reference to himself, I heard him say DreMD. I could see now just how much he had changed.
My teenager seems like the one on trial here but unfortunately these actions he has acquired are just the playbook for all teenagers. So I understand that this is normal but it doesn’t make it any less easier.
